Still Trying - EP 9 - Brought To You By Trains

That’s right bay-bay! Trains are making a comeback in a BIG way. Keep your eyes peeled in 2019 because your two year old nephew has his pulse on all the hottest trends.

In this episode we’ll wipe our hands clean of Brett Kavanaugh and remind you that Bill Clinton’s treatment of women is actually worse. (Send your angry emails to stilltryingbuds@gmail.com) Josh dabbles in a real world version of scenes from the Netflix series Love, taking a date to his version of the Magic Castle. Will he and his date sink or swim? Tune in to find out!

We also return to Reddit, that treasure trove of contemplative content. This time, members of r/datingoverthirty ask “Why won’t he say he loves me?” BECAUSE THAT BOY DON’T LOVE HIMSELF GIRL. GET OUT! GET! OUT!!!

Build your house on stilts cus’ the oceans are rising, but so long as we’re here, we’re gonna keep on trying!

Still Trying - EP 8 - KavaNaw... Oh Hell Naw

TW: This episode contains frank discussion about sexual assault and rape culture that may be difficult for some listeners.

Are we living in a hell world folks? Sure. But (if we may loosely steal from Prince) are we all gathered here today to get through this thing called life? Absolutely. We’re doing our unqualified best on this episode to help navigate the Brett Kavanaugh issue; the fact that as of writing these notes, a man credibly accused of sexual assault who stood in front of a Senate Judiciary Committee and drunkenly ranted about conspiracy theories against him while perjuring himself dozens of times about recorded references to wanton sex acts, is possibly about to take a lifetime seat on the Supreme Court as one of the 9 most powerful people on the planet. But hey, he likes BEER okay? Don’t you like BEER? We all like BEER! I’ve never blacked out from drinking BEER! HAVE YOU SENATOR?!

But to be serious for a bit we’ll explore how we deal with ourselves and our own judgements in light of these things. And what does our cultural reaction to behavior from both the gross, condescending, conservative power structure as well as the purity identity politics, social media woke-tivist crowd tell us to do with masculinity? Is there a place in our society for a non-toxic masculinity?

We also try to perk things up in the second half with a reading series from Connor Kilpatrick’s excellent article from the Summer 2018 issue of Jacobin It’s Okay to Have Children. We’re taking on both liberal and conservative views on who should and shouldn’t have children in our reading series and not pulling punches. Yup. It’s a dating podcast that’s ALL politics today, so send your angry emails to stilltryingbuds@gmail.com.

Still Trying - *sniffle, sniff* Announceme- *AAAHCHOO*

No new episode this week on account of sickness and moving. Maybe someday if ya’ll wanna hook up a fat Patreon following we’ll plow through these sorts of life events. But in lieu of that, when it costs us time and money to do the show, we’re doing us first. Sorry fam. Instead of an episode this week, a brief thank you and request! We’ll see you back in the podosphere in two weeks.

Email us your questions or why you make a worthy guest of the pod:

stilltryingbuds@gmail.com

Still Trying - EP 7 - But Seriously, Who Are OUR Sex And The City Analogs?

TW: This episode briefly and lightly touches on the subject of rape.

Josh is DEFINITELY a Miranda (BTW... Cynthia Nixon just happens to be up for election of Governor of New York in their primary next week. Just sayin.) Leyla could go Carrie or Charlotte though...

But, time to get serious. Josh makes fumbles for your gain. This episode is packed full of dating and life advice as learned from Josh failing to follow it. But growin' up in the aftermath... we hope! It's our first pull from the depths of r/Bumble and the horrors that lurk within. And this is honestly one of the lighter pieces of material you can find in there! We'll also touch on Leyla's newfound restraint from swiping and what it feels like to let the swiping cease. There's also a VERY valuable metaphorical reference to Good Will Hunting that's going to solve all your preservation needs. We swear... or at least Josh does. Leyla's never seen it and fairly thinks it sounds silly. One of the writers was a young Matt Damon and the other was, well... just any age Ben Affleck.

Still Trying - EP 6 - To Reach or Settle?

That is the question today. Put on your science hats folks. We're taking a look at some interesting new data about how we engage with dating apps by Associate Professor of Sociology at the University of Michigan, Dr. Elizabeth Bruch. Apparently we're all on Tinder itching to get a right swipe from somebody 25% "out of our league". We'll sift through the findings of The Atlantic's article on the study (Dude, She’s (Exactly 25 Percent) Out of Your League) and contemplate our own place on the desirability hierarchy. Hint: Like most people, we're probably pretty narcissistic about it.

We'll also work out some dating tips learned from each others dating experiences over the last week, but likely run dry on what to do when sparks don't fly when you give it a whirl with someone who started as a friend first... "I'll see you when I see you? I'll call you?" Eh, more than likely, I'll probably just try to hide in a corner and bury my face in my phone every time I see you out in public forever and ever, amen.

Additional music in today's Episode: "Outta My League" by Team Stray

Still Trying - EP 5 - Advice From Sergei in the Basement

Leyla makes a (re)connection in the real world and we're going to see how that plays out. Meanwhile, Josh finds his way to a dark place at the bottom of Tinder and Match.com with the loneliness of post-30 single life. Will he make Leyla cry?! Listen to find out!

We also do the first installment of our reading series. You'll learn "How to Get Laid NOW" (If you're a d-bag).

Still Trying - Ep 4 - Bummer Jam Immersion Therapy

What better way to celebrate the height of summer than wallowing in jams that are a total bummer? Josh and Leyla explore the ups and downs of the music we associate with our relationships... and their inevitable break ups.

But before that, Leyla debates meeting a guy who wants to stay in the burbs' while Josh releases a manifesto against match.com and the world's clumsiest UX design.

Still Trying - EP 3 - A Currency of Beans

Leyla spent 30 seconds stalking an ex on Instagram and decided the meaning of what she found is that she'll most assuredly die alone. We spend a chunk of the show digging her out of that funk and explain why it's so much better to travel alone then with a partner. Of course we dissect some of Josh's latest dating app matches and their cryptic expenditures of beans. Yes beans. Seriously, Coffee Meets Bagel. What are you doing to us? And finally, some encouragement to show your body some love by showing your body!

Email us fam! - stilltryingbuds@gmail.com